do indian men love their sisters more than their wives?

[olivermary33]

Hello everybody, I need your advise. I am a french girl married to and Indian boy, I am very concern because he loves his sister too much!!! Actually I would say taht he is crazy about his little sister!!!, if she does something wrong or if she does something bad to me, my husband just excuse her saying that she didn't mean it, that she has a good heart, that she is not experience enough... and she is the same age as me!!! we are 25!!! She know her brother loves her so she knows how to get what she wants from him and she knows when to cry to make him feel that she is still a little girl. But if I say something about her to my husband, he totally gets upset, I can see that my sister in law is very jelous of me but my husband can not see that. We live in the united states and she lives in India but I feel like if she is living with us!!! She calls my husband's mobile every week!!! They laugh together but she never call me!!Does my husband loves her more that he loves me? Please help !!!

[spadezgurl22]

stop being so insecure in jealous. she lives in india and misses her brother. he misses her and loves her. he has u every day to be with, understand how hard it is to be away from your family.

[Free spirit]

Indian men are too attached to their families. When push comes to shove, wife always loses.































Trust me, I am married to one who kept choosing his mother over me.

[Fredia T]

When you married for love the sister was to be remove from he's sight. Being the same age does cause a little jealous on her part. Talk to him about it. No he doesn't love you any more than he loves her. Call her sometimes and talk to her. Talk to him and make no of it. Don't let him know that it bothers you, but be honest with him. A man a woman love has a strong bond. Don't let that worry you so much. You must tell her that you are not the one. Excuses will make this relationship soar. Just talk to him about what you feel. Tell her to get a life.

[MOMO]

Yes, Sadly it's true. But it's also a good thing because you know that you have a brother that loves you. Well she's in India so don't worry. I believe that your husband loves you but he doesn't know how to show it. Like my dad loves my mom really much but he doesn't show it and he could even die for her. Well he loves his sister a lot and it does seem like he loves her more than his wife but he love her too. Don't worry and be your self. Oh, Jealousy always happens and you have to learn to get over it. Try to make the best of it and get the good side of your problem. Good thing that she is in India. Good Luck

[abhi_in_hsv]

I dont know the exact situation but i love my sister as much. But i would neevr neglect my wife for anyone. Although , i am tempted to think that being away from his family and particularly his sister and assuming he is the only brother, Indian men tend to care for their sisters and family and sometimes the wife thinks it is at her cost.































Honestly, try and think of it this way. If u were born in afghanistan and lived there and u had a brother who was well off in a say Dubai, wont u want him to take care of you and send gifts and stuff, when clearly he can .































Also You must understand that she came in his life much before you did, so its hard to adjust. The jealously you talk about is more like a sibling rivalry , when the older child hates the love being shared with the new child !!































If you just try and talk to her and get her to like u back. things would work.

[manjit grover]

Your first mistake,you never learnt about the Indian culture.In INDIA an elder brother is not only a brother but more like a father,brother and sister relation is pure.Don't get jealous.If your husband ask you the same question between you and your brother then how will you feel.

[modest]

Indian brothers do have a very special relationship with their sisters. Nowhere in the world would you come across a ceremony like Raksha Bandhan or Bhai Phonta. These festivals not only bind a brother and sister in a loving lifelong bond but also put the brother in the role of the protector of his sister from harm or dishonour till she is married. Hence your husband's attitude towards his sister is nothing unusual. That is the manner in which Indian brothers behave with their sisters according to Indian tradition and culture.















What is unusual however is your thinking that your sister-in-law has usurped the place which is reserved for you as the wife to your husband. As already explained, Indian brothers are a little indulgent towards their little sisters. That does not mean that Indian husbands love their wives any less. Obviously their love for their sisters is different in nature from their love for their wives. One is not a substitute for the other. The fact that your husband stays far away from his sister and misses him a lot is probably a reason for the extra indulgence shown by him. Family ties are traditionally very strong among Indians. Hence you have no reason at all to feel insecure over the affection showered by your husband on his sister. Such emotions, values and intricate relationships have no place in Western culture.















Your sister-in-law also probably feels jealous at the thought that you are the sole recipient of her brother's affections. Before his marriage to you, it was your sister-in-law who had your husband's undivided attention and affection. Hence she behaves in that manner. If your sister-in-law has shown you any disrespect, you must talk to your husband about that. Showing disrespect to any person who is older even by relation is frowned upon in Indian culture. Hence your sister-in-law can not be discourteous to you. You should be firm about this aspect. But you should shed your sense of insecurity and jealousy and come to terms with the reality of being married to an Indian man and love his sister as your own sister.

[Smita P]

no my dear,you need see thing diff rent way ,you are wife and she is sister,he loves both of you but love has total diff rent side. don't be in-secured or jealous.yes big brother most(not all)look over sister,but doesn't mean he don't love you ,talk to him how you feeling (very soft and gentle way).he is gentleman who you married he under stand and make you happy about situation.don't think negative.and best idea you start to pay attention on her more than him.until he get tried .trust me all Indian brother is not like your husband.so many are don't care even sister dying hungry.

[R. Amin.]

I don't think you are jealous. your problem is not new. I have seen some indian men are like that, they take care of their family first then wife. Not all are mama's boy or bonded to their relatives so much. It denpends on the environment they brought up and the nature of persons with who did they live more in the past. but at some point of the life they realize it.















on the other hand I have not seen any wives like that, same way they are also attached to their family but indian wives always keeps some distance with their relatives and take care of feeling of her husband first. For any indian girl after marriage the only person important in her life is her husband then other comes.















so do not need to worry and be happy otherwise it will affect your health. if yor husband see you in tension then he will feel tension too, but I feel like indian man never reveal that out to his wife, but he will still love you.















best of luck.